tell a woman or a group of women
"you need you get laid," what you are actually saying is "I hope someone sticks a cock in you so you will shut up."
There are times when it does not mean this - if, for example, you're saying it to a friend in some context where you're not
saying it in a derogatory way because the friend is putting "too much" energy into something you do not find worthwhile. (Because as we all know, we should be having lots of sex instead of wasting time on things some other people may not understand, even if it makes us happy.)
I'm really sick of hearing this comment directed at whatever woman is daring to forcefully express herself on TV most recently, so to see it used by a 16 year old (albeit a troll) in reference to a group of women (and let's face it - Harry Potter and Twilight fandoms = largely women) who she is actually speaking to personally is a little.. ugh. Disheartening. And of course, she uses it because that group are unanimously telling her she's wrong, so while it is alright for her to express an opinion, for anyone else to counter it indicates that they're a shrieking harpy who spends all day scouring the internet looking for things to argue with; that is, a loser who "needs to get laid." (Because also, having sex magically fixes all your personality defects and makes you cool, you see. Losers do not have sex. Ever. Because they are too busy debating people on the internets. But the cool kids have their priorities straight.)
Obviously, I am not anti-sex or something that stupid. But I am against telling someone that they "need" to have sex because you find what they're saying distasteful. It's conflating two completely unrelated things, and to me, it conjures up all sorts of associations with the very nasty history of female sexuality
. For those of you who think I'm crazy, consider the origins
of the concept of "hysteria":
The term originates with the Greek medical term, hysterikos. This referred to a medical condition, thought to be particular to women, caused by disturbances of the uterus, hystera in Greek. The term hysteria was coined by Hippocrates, who thought that suffocation and madness arose in women whose uteri had become too light and dry from lack of sexual intercourse and, as a result, wandered upward, compressing the heart, lungs, and diaphragm.
Surprise! Women get all uppity and crazy because they don't get enough sex! For god's sakes, doctors in the 20th century were still bringing female patients to orgasm to cure them of this "hysteria." It was extremely popular in the Victorian Era. Here's a list of symptoms which commonly indicated "female hysteria"
: faintness, nervousness, insomnia, fluid retention, heaviness in abdomen, muscle spasm, shortness of breath, irritability, loss of appetite for food or sex, and a "tendency to cause trouble". Basically, any vagie physical symptoms combined with a general dissatisfaction or, god forbid, outspokenness indicate that you're suffering from hysteria and need something between your legs, now. (Also consider the use of the word today: with the exception of instances of mass hysteria, how often do you hear someone observe that a man
is "hysterical" or "in hysterics"?)
Of course, "female hysteria" has since disappeared as a medical diagnosis and no sane doctor would suggest its existence as a legitimate condition. But obviously society still believes in it, and we evidence it every time someone tells an uppity woman that she "needs to get laid."
Just some food for thought, which will at least have you notice what you're saying next time you inform a friend of this "need" of theirs. (Also, before anyone brings it up, I think it is just as dismissive when put towards a man who's likewise exerting "too much" energy on a project you deem stupid, but I also feel that it is used less often towards men with the intention of being a biting insult and command to shut the hell up in the way that it's used towards women.)
I apologise in advance for the vulgarity, but. Just so we're all on the same page here: When you